Several years ago, I watched Larry King’s interview with Joel Osteen, world renowned preacher with more than 42,000 people attending his church each week. One of things he said on the program is that we must choose our friends and associates wisely because who we spend time with, will strongly influence what we do. There is a saying, “Tell me who you are with and I’ll tell you who you are.”
We are trained to have expectations. When we give a gift, advice, time, we usually want recognition in some way. That is the norm but it can lead us to disappointment when things do not work out.
There is a saying that God made us with two ears and one mouth for a reason. Knowing when to talk and when to listen is a skill. We often talk because the silence and pauses make us nervous and we talk to fill the void.
The summer offers such a great opportunity to spend time with family and friends who are visiting. There is so much to do; going to the beach, taking day trips to nearby places, going out to eat, having cookouts and parties, meeting new people, and just enjoying the warmth of the summer sun and beauty of the area here.
Pampering is an art and is often interpreted as an indulgence. Pampering takes many forms, but in its highest form, is an expression of self-love and nurturing. In order to give our best to others in our personal and professional lives, we have to take care of ourselves.
There are times when we are taking all the right steps and moving in the right direction, but are not reaching our goals in the time frame we desire. What discourages us is when we look at what is happening in the moment and judge that as the final result. We all want to see tangible results, but before results occur, we have to reach a certain point in the process.
Negative comments can hurt, especially when they are personal attacks and not constructive. I have heard many celebrities say that when they do not read the reviews or negative stories about them. One said that he knows when his work is good or not so good and that he values his own opinion.
Anyone who has been successful will say that they did not do it alone. We often forget the efforts of the team when we are focusing on what the person in the spotlight has achieved. In reality, none of us accomplish by ourselves. So many people contribute to our success – from the cab driver who brings us to important meeting to the board members in the room.
We are busy doing, running, meeting our schedules and those of our families. The schedules often take over our day and before we know it, the day is done and we feel exhausted. So many times we do not stop until we have to. It isn’t until we get sick or have an accident that we pay attention.
We all have intuition which can guide us when we listen. But we also have those old voices that give us messages that do not serve us anymore and in fact, hinder our progress. These are the voices that say, “You won’t get that, the money won’t come in, this person will not hear me, or my body can’t heal.” These are the fearful inner voices that temporarily overtake our positive movement.